None of this makes any sense unless I look at it in the context that  
you're manipulating me and that I've been at least somewhat replaying the
same codependent abused-victim behaviors that I had when I was with Peter.

Charles, whenever I started to feel comfortable with our situation and
that things might work out with us, you gave me a good hard shove or froze
me out to throw me off balance and keep me trying to prove my love to you.
That's a classic pattern of emotional abuse, something I've been dimly 
aware of over the past few weeks with us.

Then the all-time clincher; break my heart and then heroically offer a   
brilliant solution that really will make everything ok.. 'i promise i 
understand now, from now on everything will be the way it was meant to
be!' Riight. At least, till I start to feel comfortable again and then
come more demands and temper tantrums, more grasping at control over me  
and my life.

Your second chance was that last visit to chicago, and you shouldn't have
even had that chance by even the most generous measures. I feel like a
total sucker.

As you say, your friends would be very sad to see you leave chicago. Mine
would be quite unhappy to have you here.  So let's make everybody happy
and just forget we ever met.